Chapter 8 PROBLEM - SOLVING

"Never bring the problem solving stage into the decision making stage. Otherwise, you surrender yourself to the problem rather than the solution," Robert H. Schuller

Dear children, you are going through the second phase of your life. During this time there is a great change in your thoughts, sacraments, decision making ability and lifestyle. As a result you feel bound to a lot of mental and social chains. You seem to have problems from all sides, without any solutions. To cope up with this problem, you need to understand your problem.

(A) UNDERSTAND YOUR PROBLEM

* Introspect and identify your problem.

 

REASONS OF THE PROBLEMS

 

Friends

Cheating

Being Selfish

Forcing to addiction

Calling with the wrong name

Not being trustworthy

Engaging in immoral activities

 

House

Domestic violence

Having a rift between parents

Not getting love from siblings

Not spending time with parents

No sharing with elders

 

School

Fear of tests/papers

Not interested in studies

Fear of talking to the teacher

Not being interested in a particular subject

 

Personal

No hobbies

Having negative thinking

Not being able to make the right decision

Decreased sell-confidence

Fear of the future

Spending more time on social media

Lack of punctuality

 

Society

Discrimination

Quarrels with neighbours

Lack of cooperation

 

Dear children, these problems can be internal as well as external. These can be related to your home, school, community, may be either personal or even related to friends. These problems are exacerbated when you seek the assistance of your peers or siblings to solve them.

Have you ever thought that your peers or siblings do not have the experience and knowledge that your parents or teachers have?

 

(B) TECHNIQUES FOR SOLVING THE PROBLEMS

What you need is to know the solutions to your problems, and then to understand the SAFE HABITS Rule to solve them.

SAFE HABITS RULE

 

S=Share with elders.

A=Adopt a hobby.

F=Follow time table.

E=Enjoy everyday.

H=Help everyone.

A=Avoid overuse.

B=Be stress-free.

I=Imagine a better life.

T=Take a break.

S=Self-realization.

 

Dear children, follow the SAFE HABITS rule to improve your life and to get rid of problems forever.

What are these SAFE HABITS RULES?

Know them, acknowledge them and adopt them:

 

1. SHARE WITH ELDERS

Your problems are yours unless you share them with your parents or teachers. Get answers to the questions that come to your mind from them; they are your backbone. Their experience, advice, encouragement and support will guide you. Think and answer - whom do you trust the most? Share any of your problems with them and then share your experience here.

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2. Adopt a Hobby

You can use your leisure time to pursue any hobby.

Hobby

Reading books

Writing compositions

Painting

Gardening

Listening to Music

Art and Craft

These hobbies will boost your self-confidence as well as develop your skills.

 

3. Follow Timetable

Your routine is the ladder of your future life. Create your own schedule. Doing so will not burden you with studies, rather it will help you memorize the syllabus of test/ exams, make you punctual, help you make decisions and stay healthy. Plan your schedule in a way that includes adequate time for workout, stroll, study, sports and family.

My Time Table

Monday

Tuesday

Wednesday

Thursday

Friday

Saturday

Sunday

Special Note

My Diary

4. Enjoy Everyday.

Dear children, life is a labyrinth. This Timetable of happiness and sorrow continues forever. So live every moment whole-heartedly, enjoy each day and each moment of happiness. Doing so will change your frequent mood swings. You will become lighter and happier.

a) Write down the names of the four people you enjoy thinking about

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b) Write about the two things that make you happy when you think about them.

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5. Help Everyone.

The sun is a ball of fire. It remains sizzling hot but still shines every day to give light to others. The problem like fire may burn you, but it can't destroy your good feelings and sacrament. So whenever the opportunity arises, take steps for the goodness, welfare and helpfulness.

It is true that you must have helped someone or someone must have helped you during the difficult times of Covid-19.

Think and write about two such incidents when you helped someone or someone helped you.

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6. Avoid Overuse.

You spend most of your day on mobile phones (social media). If so, why? If not, why not?

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You need to understand that this piece of metal (phone) is crumbling your future to pieces. Overuse of anything is unwelcoming. Here is a tip to help you avoid it. Make some corners of your home phone-free. Make a poster and put it there -It is forbidden to take the phone to this place.

 

7. Be Stress-Free.

Life is a race. It only gets worse when you are overwhelmed with thoughts. Make a rainbow and write down the seven best moments of your life.

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8. Imagine a Better Life

Happiness is like sunshine that illuminates every corner of your life. Imagine and write that you were transposed into world in which you have everything.

 

9. Take a Break

Having the same routine every day can sometimes make you feel lonely and frustrated. One way to shun this is to take a vacation.

Your life works like a car. Brakes are sometimes applied while driving, so that the vehicle does not get out of control. Just apply the same breaks in your life so that the brakes of the vehicle of life do not fail.

10. Self-realization

The tender flower of a rose spreads its fragrance for a few days but as long as it blooms it scatters happiness.

Think of yourself as a rose; always laugh and stay happy in the thorns like problems. Realize your importance and enjoy life.

(C) THINK AND FIND SOLUTIONS

Solve the following problems on the basis of your experience and techniques used in the lesson.

a) Sirat has been sad and anxious for a long time. He doesn’t t seem to be interested in any work. Stuck in a problem, he can’t talk to anyone about it. What can you do to help him get out of this predicament?

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b) You have been following the same routine for a long time which makes you feel bored. You are not being able to give your 100% in the studies. How will you solve this problem?

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c) Your younger brother lacks self-confidence which makes him less self-reliant. What steps will you take to instill confidence in him?

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d) Your friend spends all his time watching TV and on the phone. He doesn't pay much attention to his studies. How can you be a source of inspiration to change his mind?

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e) Your parents always compare you to other children. You don't like it at all. All you need is to sit down with your parents and talk politely about this to solve your problem. Talk to them and write your experience.

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f) One of your classmates arrives late to school every day. As a result, he/she receives daily reprimands from the teacher. He/ She seems to have lost his/her identity. You know his/her predicament. What will you do to solve this problem?

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Dear children, there is no such problem that cannot be solved. As there can be no lock without a key, there can be no problem without any solution. If you find yourself surrounded by such situations, what will you need-problem or solution? Choice is yours.

1. Make a list of the techniques you will use to solve a problem.

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2. Make a list of two immoral things you will never do.

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EVALUATION BY THE TEACHER